Happy New Year's!

I thought this would be an easy post to right. That when I sat down, my fingers would fly across the keys and I would be done within fifteen minutes to a half hours. However, this post has taken much longer for me to type. Some things are easy, like this next one:

Much like the end of 2015, I am working on a project that I am very excited about and want to announce in the coming year. I don’t want to ruin the surprise, so I am not going to say too much about it. Maybe as it gets closer to completion, I will share some hints!

But some things have been harder to explain and find the right words for.

For example, in 2017, I also want to be more fearless. Fearless in sharing my beliefs and my business. Fearless in fighting against oppression and bigotry. And fearless in reaching my goals. Well, that was the easy part. The harder part is in explaining why. When I try to, it comes off, well like a flop. Do I need to explain why? Probably not, but there is something in me saying I should. It is important to me to show who I am, not just a face or part of me.

So, why is my theme for 2017 “Fearless?” Because I feel scared and uncertain about sharing my beliefs and goals with people I know. For example, after I married my husband, a lot of people who know him requested to be friends with me on Facebook. Out of feelings of obligation, I accepted their requests. Now, it is important to know that many of these people I don’t share religious/spiritual or political beliefs with. And a handful have shown that they can be confrontational with people who believe differently than they do.

But it isn’t just in that case. I am hesitant to share my business with coworkers; even family members at times as well.

I don’t feel like I am safe to say things in spaces they occupy.
So in 2017, I want to be fearless. I want to stand with more confidence in these situations and say, “This is who I am. And I have beautiful things to share with the wold too.”

Because I, as we all, should feel safe in these spaces as well.
And so I will end with something easy to say. I will do my best to shine, so that others may see the light within themselves as well and so that people can see they are not alone.

In 2017, let’s all shine together! <3

What are your goals, hopes, plans, or resolutions for 2017? Share them in the comments below!


  • Lisa G.

    I can totally relate to this! I have learned that for myself, it is not an obligation to share my spiritual beliefs w everyone. I don’t feel anymore that I owe an explanation or disclosure. I do what I do for me. I understand this is your biz and you want to share and be seen for the amazing healer that you are. BUT! if sharing w some people who won’t get you or why you do what you do gives you an intuitional ( I may have made that word up!) ick factor/feeling then I think it is justifiable, fearless and strong to protect yourself, your needs and the essence of your foundation as a healer. If you feel forced to share then it isn’t the right time. I feel that your fearlessness is authentic to the core of who you are…Shelby Melissa just as you are. You need to feel safe and protected in your fearless too. Being strong comes in many forms…not just feeling vulnerable and “naked”.
    Your post was wonderful and inspiring!! Thank you for sharing and as always being a source of strength and knowledge!
    Happy New year xo

    • shelbymelissa

      Hey Lisa!
      I hope you had a wonderful New Year’s! I wanted to take some time to reflect on the things you pointed out.
      It is definitely a fine line between sharing because there is benefit in others realizing there are other views and beliefs in the world (as well as other reasons), and protecting one’s self. I think that is where I am struggling the most.
      Probably another New Year’s resolution to work on this year – balance sharing and openness with protecting myself! Lol.
      And thank you for the wonderful comments in your comment!
      I’m glad you found the post wonderful and inspiring!
      And thank you for giving me more to consider and work with to refine what works best for me! <3

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