23. There is always more pie / abundance

*I swear in this episode

This episode comes from a live I did on Instagram that I am affectionately calling “There is always more pie.” If our natural state is abundance, and expansion, then there always has to be more than enough. So why don’t we experience it in that way? Well, people have created systems that perpetuate false scarcity. I could talk a lot about this, but I think the live speaks for itself. So take a listen!

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Hello! Welcome to Episode 23 of the Money Mindset Shift! This episode comes from a live I did on Instagram that I am affectionately calling “There is always more pie.”

As you will hear, this live was inspired from conversations I was having with clients and friends – and also my own understanding of abundance.

If our natural state is abundance, and expansion, then there always has to be more than enough. So why don’t we experience it in that way? Well, people have created systems that perpetuate false scarcity, which we are defining as the constructed experience of not enough that humans have created to keep resources out of the hands of many for various purposes, including having a debted and vulnerable workforce.

I could talk a lot about this, but I think the live speaks for itself. So take a listen!

Hello welcome! Oh my gosh. So I have spent the last, maybe, a little over two and a half hours now responding to client messages, friend messages, like all the things. And I need to take a deep breath. But there’s so much, there’s just so much that I want to talk about.

I’m going to take a deep breath and have some Dr. Pepper. So if you don’t know me, hi, I’m Shelby. I go by Shelby Melissa on the internet and I am addicted to Dr. Pepper. Here we go.

Okay. So let’s talk about this. We’re talking false scarcity. This has come up in different conversations I’ve had today and we’re just going to let my hair be a beautiful mess. So false scarcity. Let me know what you think this is. Take a moment. Think about it. Type it in the comments. What do you think false scarcity is?

Just think about it. Chew on it for a second.

So let me give you my little definition.

Sorry, I’ve got more messages coming in. So we’re going to be continuing these conversations with my clients and my friends. But for me, false scarcity is this artificially created experience of scarcity. It’s the limiting belief and the physical manifested reality, and co-created reality, with systems and people and things that money is scarce in particular.

And that power is scarce. So let’s talk about this.

It’s not true, obviously. It’s false scarcity. So that means that it’s not true, right? It’s not actually scarce. There’s way more than enough for everybody. And so let’s use the example of power for a moment. So when you think of talks around social and economic disparities and the realities that systems have created, when people talk about equality and equity, what always comes up is “so you want me to give things up?” And that’s not true.

So the example that’s commonly used is this example of a pie. And so it’s like, okay, so you want like, this is my pie. You want to give people more slices of my pie. So you have a pie and it’s like, okay, we’re going to add another person or a few more people.

And it’s like, okay, now I’ve got to split my pie five ways. And it’s like, no, we can just make more pies. So it’s not taking pie away from anybody. It’s not giving up pie. It’s creating space for more pie. And when we think of that in terms of money, it’s the same idea. It’s the… if we think about… Let’s take kind of a real-life example without naming names, of a CEO business owner who has a big business. So there’s multiple levels. So there’s administration. There’s um, the retail side of things. There’s warehouses and distribution. So big production, right?

They aren’t going to make any less money because they compensate their workers well. False scarcity tells them that they can’t. That they must use the bare minimum essentials for like a warehouse. That they don’t need air conditioning. That they don’t need to like, give people breaks. That they need to pressure people to be this optimal working thing. That they need to cut hours and do lean scheduling at their retail locations. That people have to start at like, minimum wage or like, sub living wages.

And it’s not true. It’s just false. There’s way more than enough.
And so by fairly compensating workers, by providing a more than livable wage, by creating working conditions that aren’t inhumane and actually comfortable and that people want to work in, it doesn’t take away from them. It’s this narrative of false scarcity.

I was talking with some friends in the human design sphere as well. And if you’re not familiar with human design, don’t worry about it. I think you’ll probably get the gist of it. But of this idea, so I’m a projector, handful of people I was talking to are projectors, and a couple other different types. And there’s this idea of projectors moving into leadership positions means that it’s taking away from the other types. And it’s not because it’s not projectors just telling everybody what to do without consideration for people and everybody just like falling in line and doing these things. It’s collaboration. It’s co-creation between everybody. And the example that came up while we were talking is this example of, let’s say a farm. So we have food production at the scale that we have food production here in the United States, there’s the farm, the place where the food is grown. I was gonna say built. It’s grown. Transportation, processing, probably transportation again, at bare minimum, I’m thinking, and like, being sold. So we have retail locations. Then we have the people who buy the food and eat the food. And then we, if we elaborate on this further, we have all of the machinery that’s needed to grow the food and do the transportation and to distribute the food and all the things that are needed for nourishing the food as it grows.

And it’s much bigger than that. So each type fits into this in different ways. And each individual’s lines and authority and all of these things fit into it in different ways. And so everybody’s needed. And so it’s not taking away pie. It’s making more pie to go back to our first example.

And it’s the same with money. It’s the same with power. There’s not a limitation on it. There’s always more. A little bit more of a kind of silly practical point is I’m always like, “we need to take care of this thing!” Right? So like, I don’t know, I’m going to use this pen. We need to cherish and take care of this pen. Which cherishing things is great. But I’m like, basically that means we can’t, in this example, use this pen, right? Because it will run out. And my husband’s so great. He’s like, “We’ll just buy another pen.” Like “We’ll just buy another,” um, I don’t know, “kitchen utensil. We’ll just buy another thing when we need to,” and that’s his stance regardless of understanding where finances are at or whatever. He’s like, “There’s more. There’s always more, it’s fine.”

And I think that’s the thing. Is that the false scarcity that doesn’t mean we don’t cherish the thing. There’s always more pens. There’s always more pie. Like there’s always more, way more than enough. Our natural state is abundance. Is way more than enough. In my four stages of abundance, having it all.

That’s our natural state. It’s the systems and the oppressive and limiting systems and beliefs and programs that tell us otherwise, and that have shaped this experience and reality of not our natural state being abundance and way more than enough, and of being worried and having to be like, “If I pay fairly compensate my workers, in our big business example, that there won’t be enough for me.” And it’s like, no, wait, you’re just, you’re going to make more money. Right. And so like our natural state, again, it is abundance. I want you to like really connect with that. Your natural state is abundance. Your natural state is having it all. That’s the basic level vibration.

And being in that harmony and experience and joy and peace with that doesn’t mean that bad things don’t happen in life. We experienced loss., right? But there’s always more joy. That’s the thing. There’s always more joy. There’s always more experiences to have. And so there’s not ever not enough.

And so that’s what I wanted to share from these conversations that I’ve had today is that you setting your prices, whatever they may be, it is not taking from other people. There’s way more than enough.

And we also have to trust them to make decisions. We can’t be in their pockets. That was like my last reel, we can’t project onto them. You stepping into your own leadership doesn’t mean that other people can’t either. You sharing your gifts with the world, doesn’t detract from other people sharing their gifts.

And even when we see other people talking about the things that we want to talk about in business and in life, and writing books we want to write, it doesn’t mean that we can’t write ours. There’s way more than enough words. There’s way more than enough space. It’s the false scarcity that has told us otherwise.

So create the business, write the book, price the offer, share with the world,  be you. And enjoy that because there’s way more than enough. Their success doesn’t detract from your own. Your success doesn’t detract from somebody else’s. We all get to have more than enough. And in fact, we should. And totally understandable that our experiences don’t always reflect that because of the systems at play in communities and societies and the oppression and the limiting things that are a result of those systems. So it’s not your fault if you’re not experiencing it. It’s a direct result of those systems. And we have to do the work to address those systems, but you also get to show up. You also get to make money. Way more than enough money. You also get to talk about money or business or love or worth. You also get to be a mindset coach, or make oils, or run a fashion company or whatever it is. There’s more, way more than enough. So that is the message I wanted to share with you all, and I really want you to take to heart because they’re really, really, really is way more than enough for all of us.

So I hope that that at least sparks some thoughts for you. Grab a journal. If you’re a journaler. Work through those things. If you’re a thinker, go sit down and think through it. If you need to soundboard with somebody, share this with them first and then soundboard with them. Bring them into the conversation.

Just know there’s way more than enough. And our jobs are to show up and also to change the systems that are telling us otherwise. And creating experiences for people that aren’t contrary to that base frequency, the basic vibration, that basic truth, that there is way more than enough. So thank you for listening.

Share your thoughts in the comments. Message me. Let’s continue this conversation. And I have more messages to get to to now. So I will be getting to those. And I hope that you are having a wonderful day wherever you are, and that you just get to enjoy the beauty of life. I will talk to you soon.

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Thank you for listening to Episode 23, and I’ll see you next time!

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