I couldn’t pack my day full of things like other people. So I began to learn about my energy and myself, accepting rather than comparing. Here is what I learned.
I see people who can check off a lot of things on their to-do lists. Who can pack their days full of events. And I used to try to do all the things too. I used to try to fit as much as I could into my day.
But there was still never enough time in the day for me to get all those things done.
I might get halfway through the list, on the average day, and find myself just dragging through the rest of it. Or on a day when I didn’t get much sleep, or was not feeding my body what it needed, I would maybe only get a fourth of the things done. Then on good days, when I had sleep, I woke up happy, had fruit and vegetables, I could get maybe get 3/4ths of the way through.
But I could never get through the whole list.
And it wasn’t because I wasn’t trying. Or that I was a worse person. It is just that I don’t have that kind of energy.
If we think of it like an energy meter.
Mine is maybe 50 units, whereas the people I was comparing myself too, maybe had meters that were 75 or 100 units. Any task reduces the meter by a couple of units or so. More difficult tasks take up more. And it isn’t like the difficulty is set the same for everyone. Calling someone will take up more units from me than it would someone else.
So, I’ve learned to accept that I just run out sooner. And that is okay.
By accepting it, I have begun to better balance my life so my energy meter isn’t empty by like three in the afternoon. It then became an experiment of finding out what took more energy points and how I could replenish them in the day.
- Naps – replenishing, most days.
- Going to events – replenishing to a point, then draining. (Depending on the number of people I was interacting with, the location of the event, etc.)
- Video games – somewhat replenishing, mostly neutral. These became things I could do when I was near empty.
- Sunshine – replenishing.
- Food – replenishing, depending on the food.
And I could go on and on. But it has been a process of learning myself because they are based on who I am, my experiences, and my needs. Which means that everyone’s lists will look different.
That’s why getting to know ourselves and our energy is so important.
So, if you are looking to understand yourself better, and your energy – take a look at the things you do. Observe your energy and how it fluctuates, or doesn’t.
Things like medical conditions, disabilities, systematic discrimination and oppression, chronic illnesses, mental health illnesses, loss, and more can also play into the amount of energy you have as well. And you may be familiar then with Spoon Theory of chronic illness, which, if you aren’t familiar, you can read by clicking here.
And if you are familiar with Human Design, a sort of astrology chart on your energy, you’ll know that energy varies between the different types. Some basically can generate their own, other’s can’t initiate on their own. You can read more about Human Design by clicking here.
And while Spoon Theory and Human Design address different areas of energy – physical energy and metaphysical energy – you can begin to see the differences and the ways in which things may overlap or impact one another.
Importantly though, don’t compare yourself, but truly get to know and accept yourself instead.
I want to hear from you!
What does your list look like? What replenishes your energy? What depletes your energy? Are there things that are sort of neutral? Tell me about it in the comments below!